Ever treading the difficult ground between being a doormat or a 'tank'?
Is it difficult to say 'no' to a friend?
Do you get stuck with doing too much at work?
Do you always manage to get your point across well?
Do you get to do the things you really want, or do other people's priorities somehow always come first?
ASSERTIVENESS is not about selfishness, it's about peaceful co-existence, RESPECT toward and APPRECIATION of oneself and others! It's about creating boundaries and enriching other people's lives with helping them to understand us by getting our point across in an appropriate, possibly friendly manner.
This is a community for people who want to work on their assertiveness and occasionally need a place to vent, or a shoulder to cry on. Here you can rant or rave about your experience with unfriendly waitors, unhelpful staff, demanding friends, family, co-workers, or innocent by-standers. Long rants behind a cut, please. No trolling.
Everyone who is either naturally assertive or has learnt to be more assertive (with the help of workshops, books, or other people, etc.) is also welcome, if they are here to learn, provide support, ideas and/or info.
This is NOT the place for people who ONLY wish to rant without being willing to WORK on changing themselves - their behaviour or attitude/s.
Feel free to ask for advice or give some. Do tell what you opted for, and let us know how it went. We will appreciate it.
Do tell what you want in your post: advice, a pat on the back, or just some sympathy!!
We are not professionals, but we are people who SERIOUSLY want to WORK on our COMMUNICATION SKILLS, and getting our point across in a peaceful, respectful manner. You are WELCOME to join if this is your goal too!!
A list of helpful books will be posted here, so tell us which ones were helpful to you and in what way so we may add them! Please no long quotes, use your own words! Anne Dickson: A Woman in Your Own Right/ Assertiveness and You